Post 2: The Cycle of Grief in Credentialing
- Coping with Below Standard Assessments
Understanding the Emotional Journey
Receiving feedback that you're below standard in an ICF performance assessment can feel like a punch in the gut. It's more than just professional disappointment; it can trigger a profound emotional response akin to a cycle of grief. Over the years, I've supported many coaches through this emotional rollercoaster, and I want to share some insights and strategies to help you navigate this challenging experience.
The Cycle of Grief
Denial: "This can't be right. I must have made a mistake."
Anger: "Why is the assessment so unfair? What do they know about my skills?"
Bargaining: "Maybe if I change this or that, it will be enough."
Depression: "I'm just not good enough. Maybe coaching isn't for me."
Acceptance: "I see where I can improve. This is a growth opportunity."
Stories of Resilience
One coach I mentored, let's call her Sarah, went through this cycle. Initially, she was in denial, convinced there was a mistake. She then moved to anger, feeling the assessment was unfair. Through our sessions, she learned to navigate these emotions, eventually reaching acceptance and using the feedback to enhance her skills. Today, Sarah is a successful PCC, a testament to her resilience and growth.
Practical Tips
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel disappointed and frustrated. Acknowledge these emotions instead of suppressing them.
Seek Support: Connect with mentor coaches or peers who can offer perspective and encouragement.
Reflect and Learn: Use the feedback as a tool for growth. Identify specific areas for improvement and create a plan to address them.
Stay Resilient: Remember that this is a journey. Each setback is an opportunity for growth and learning.
Moving Forward
In our next post, we'll explore the internal narratives we create and how they impact our self-perception and performance. Remember, every coach faces challenges, but it's how we respond that defines our journey.